As part of Children of Foster Carers’ Week, we’re celebrating the incredible children who play a vital role in fostering families.
Today, we’re sharing the perspective of 12-year-old Oliver and his mum Tracy, from Local Community Fostering, Greater London East. Together, they reflect on what it means to be part of a fostering family - the challenges, the joys, and the powerful impact it has on everyone involved.
“Hi, my name is Oliver and I’m 12 years old. My family is a fostering family.
“Fostering is part of our life at home, and it has been a calm journey for me. I like playing UNO and Dobble with my foster siblings, and we become friends easily. It feels like they’re part of the family.
“One of the best things about being part of a fostering family is that I get to meet lots of different people and visit many places. I also get a lot of toys, and I share them with my foster brothers and sisters.
“There are some really special memories too. For example, after one of my foster sisters moved on, we met up with her at the zoo, it was a nice day and we’re still good friends. If your parents are thinking about fostering, I’d say it’s fun to meet other children.
“I still get to spend time with my mum and dad on my own when we’re fostering other children, and I often cook with my mum. If you’re worried or not sure about it, just talk to your mum or dad, they’ll help you out. It’s normal to have questions, and you’ll still get to do stuff with your family”.
Tracy shares her own advice for other parents who are considering fostering.
“Oliver came to live with us when he was nearly six as a foster child and then, in 2023, we adopted him, so I’m his mum now.
“If you’re thinking of fostering and you have children of your own, make sure that communication with them is both open and clear.
“That includes before a child comes to be part of your family, including them in the conversations and preparations, during the time that the child is with you, and after their foster siblings move on, making sure that they feel that they are included in all of the fostering life.”
Local Community Fostering has created a series of information booklets designed specifically for different age groups, from young children to teenagers and adult children of foster carers. These guides offer practical advice, honest answers, and creative activities to help parents and carers talk openly with their children about fostering. You can view them here.
