Sons and Daughters Month for fostering services

Sons and Daughters Month is The Fostering Network’s annual campaign to celebrate the vital contribution the children of foster carers make to foster care. Each October, fostering services across the UK run events and activities to recognise and reward children and young people for the important role they play in their home, making children in care feel happier, welcome, more safe and more loved.

This year's theme is #GrowingUpFostering and we hope you'll get involved!

Show your appreciation

The children of foster carers play an essential role in welcoming children and young people in care into their families and are vital to successful fostering. Most sons and daughters of foster carers report that they are happy being part of a fostering family, but expectations on them are high and there can be challenges to overcome. Sons and Daughters Month is the perfect opportunity to show the young people in your service how much you appreciate their contribution and dedication to fostering. 

Taking time to listen to the children of foster carers and hearing what they have to say about their experience of being part of a family that fosters is an important way of showing your appreciation and improving your service. 

Recruitment and retention

Many people say that the potential impact on their children is one of the major barriers to becoming a foster carer. The reality is that many children benefit from being part of the support network offered by a fostering family to a child in care. Seeing life from another’s perspective can be an enriching experience and can help a child learn and develop as an individual.

Involving older sons and daughters in recruitment information sessions during Sons and Daughters Month can help allay some of the fears of your potential future foster carers and may encourage more to apply. Supporting the children of foster carers through groups and activities helps them meet other children from families who foster and share their experiences in a fun and safe environment. This in turn can support your foster carers and boost your foster carer retention if they feel confident their whole family is supported and valued.

How to get involved

Run a ‘thank you’ event

The main aim of Sons and Daughters Month is to thank the children of foster carers and show how much you value their contribution to fostering, so the best way to get involved is to organise a thank you event or activity. It's a great way to bring everyone together and show how much you care. 

If you are hosting events, please don't forget to share photos and stories of those with us by emailing or tweeting @fosteringnet. You can also tag us on Instagram @thefosteringnetwork

Send a thank you message or give a certificate

A great way to let the children of your foster carers know that they’re appreciated is to send them our thank you letter and certificate. Most children and young people like to receive something in the post that is addressed to them.

You can also ask your local mayor or another dignitary to write a letter to all the children of foster carers. In addition you could ask your head of service to record a short thank you message to the young people.

Secure media coverage

Besides thanking the children of foster carers for everything they do, we also want to raise awareness of how crucial they are in a fostering household. A good way to do so is to approach local media outlets and get them to talk about the role of sons and daughters. If you know of a young person whose parents foster that would be great to share their experiences why not try and arrange an interview? Not only will the sons and daughters in your service be really pleased that their great work is acknowledged, it's also a great opportunity to raise the profile of fostering in your area and recruit more foster carers. 

Set up a group

If you haven’t got one already, use the month as an opportunity to launch a group for the children of foster carers in your area. The group can give sons and daughters a chance to meet, share experiences and talk about how they feel about being part of a fostering family, while doing fun activities together. You can read about one such group here.

Take time to listen, share and reflect

Sons and Daughters Month is a great opportunity for you to show the children of your foster carers that you appreciate everything they do for children in care. Whatever you decide to do to say ‘thank you’, it’s important to take time to evaluate the success and impact of your activities, and to do so with the help of sons and daughters.

Last but not least

Besides highlighting how vital the children of foster carers are to successful fostering, we will be using this year's campaign to kick-start important change. From October onwards we will consult with our members, young people and other stakeholders to find a new name for the campaign going forwards. 

We want our campaign to address every young person whose parents foster, no matter their gender identity. We want each and every one of them to feel seen and heard – not just as an integral part of the fostering family, but as people.

How can you help?

'Sons and daughters' is a gendered terminology that we want to replace with a name that's more inclusive. To get this right, we need to ensure that children of foster carers and people with lived experience support the new terminology and that you - our members - are happy with it too.

So if you have a great idea of what Sons and Daughters Month could be called in the future, please let us hear your thoughts and email

We can't wait to celebrate the children of foster carers with you!